If you know and live the culture of the southern U.S.:
- do older African Americans call you Sir/Ma'am regardless of whether they're older than you?
- do you call older African Americans Sir/Ma'am the way you would older white women and men?
Think about it.
Here's some reading. I've tried to bring in mostly sources written by African Americans.
What Ruby Bridges Can Teach Us About Desegregation, from The Graffiti Wall. Do you know who Ruby Bridges is? I didn't. My elementary school had ~1 African American child per class of 25 children when I was there.
Black Lives Matter. Yes. Yes. Yes. (P.S., y'all: white police officer is NOT the most dangerous job: https://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/cfoi.pdf)
Black Skeptics website. I like to check in here occasionally.
Sojourner Truth and Frederick Douglas. Still relevant, still powerful.
Roll of Thunder, Hear My Cry: a few classes in my elementary school read this. Never my class. (We read about a thoughtless white boy who deliberately stirred up a bees' nest and then died from an allergic reaction to the stings. Aesop's Fables are still better.)
The Enduring Solidarity of White Racism.
White police and doctors unlawfully arrest and detain an African American woman for...not being properly cowed and submissive and driving a nice car?
Trigger warning for violent images: The lynching of Jesse Washington. Not the only lynching. Not the only state and town in the U.S.A. that participated in lynching. And we white people by and large TURN AWAY AND PRETEND THIS DIDN'T HAPPEN. WE PRETEND WE DON'T SEE THIS SUFFERING. WE PRETEND WE'RE NOT GUILTY.
And at this point I start crying so I'm going to stop here for today.